The A Project

Many women have “inhibited orgasm” — they have reached orgasm in the past, but no longer can, and some may have never had an orgasm at all. The truth is that about 70% of women are able to reach orgasm during clitoral masturbation and only 30% from vaginal intercourse, yet most are made to feel that something is wrong with them if they don’t have vaginal orgasms. In cultures like ours, that place a high value on vaginal intercourse, many women do not receive sufficient clitoral stimulation to bring them to orgasm more quickly, if at all. In most kinds of partnered sex play — manual, body-rubbing, oral, anal, or vaginal — a man’s penis is directly stimulated. This is often not true for a woman’s clitoris.

Some women who cannot reach orgasm do not feel that orgasm is important for their sexual experience. Some women feel cheated. Some women “fake” orgasm in order to end sex play or to please their partners, who may not realize that they aren’t reaching orgasm. Masturbating can help you relax with your body and listen to its sexual wants. Once one is more comfortable with themselves then the frustration of not climaxing with a partner would not be as upsetting. Afterwards you may give yourself time to experience that with your partner with the reassurance that you can achieve orgasms but just awaiting till you reach that with your partner. Remember to open the lines of communication with your partner, here are some tips on communicating with a partner.