Buying your first sex toy can be intimidating. We receive damaging messages about masturbation & self pleasure which often lead to feelings of shame when we talk about and seek sexual pleasure. Here are some questions that can help you choose the right sex toys for you.

• What type of sensation are you looking for? 
  • If what you are looking for is external stimulation, then wands, vibrators, and rings are all good options. They are available in different shapes and sizes and can have fun additional features such as the ability to operate it remotely.
  • If what you’re looking for is vaginal or anal penetration, then you might like dildos, butt plugs, and/or anal beads. These are also available in different shapes and sizes that you could choose from. Keep in mind that bigger sizes do not necessarily mean more pleasure, it’s really about what you and/or your partner(s) are comfortable with.
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• What is your living situation and access to privacy like?
  • Toys that vibrate can produce a loud sound, so one option is to search specifically for ones that are advertised as silent or discreet vibrators for more privacy. Another option would be to go for non-vibrating toys like some people prefer. 
  • Another thing to keep in mind is that some toys require power through batteries or being plugged into a power source. If you do not want to constantly be buying batteries, consider rechargeable options or plug-in options if an electric socket is available and convenient in your room.

• What material do you want?
  • Most sex toys are made out of silicone which is body-safe material, and it is safe to use with both water and oil-based lubricants. Other toys are made out of plastic, stainless steel, ceramic, wood, and other materials.

There are so many more types and variations of toys, but you are also free to improvise DIY toys (laundry clips as nipple clamps, ropes, blindfolds, strap ons, whips, handcuffs).. it's fun to explore new things and see what gives you or your partner pleasure!