FAQs

Does masturbation cause loss of semen, does it affect my ability to have children?

Semen contains sperm, seminal fluid and prostaglandins. The testes produce sperms regularly, and so masturbation does not affect the sperm production. Masturbation is an enjoyable and harmless activity and does not cause loss of semen. Therefore it does not affect the ability to have children.

What should be the ideal size of one’s penis in order to satisfy a woman? I am nervous that I will not be able to satisfy my partner because my penis is not big.

If the penis is about 5cm long when erect, a man is perfectly capable of arousing and satisfying his partner. This is because it is in the first 4cm of a woman’s vagina that there are maximum nerve endings. These nerve endings are responsible for sensation. And, more than the vagina, it is the clitoris (located above the vaginal opening, just where the inner lips meet) that is sensitive to sensation. So if you and your partner were to concentrate on how you do what you do, whether it is with the penis or fingers or mouth, rather than the length of your penis, chances are that both of you will enjoy sex much more. Incidentally, the length of your penis has nothing to do with your ability to enjoy sexual pleasure either. It is the connection, chemistry, and technique, not size, that matters.

Yeah, but doesn’t thickness matter?

The thickness or circumference of the penis is really not of concern for sexual satisfaction. This is because the walls of the vagina are muscular and elastic and they can stretch or contract to accommodate anything that ranges in size from a little finger to a baby’s head. In fact, a very thick penis may scare your partner or put her off. Some degree of curvature of the penis is also normal.

What is erectile dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotence is the inability to maintain or achieve an erection. ED can result from physical conditions such as chronic illness, diseases, aging of the body, over-consumsion of alcohol nd specific drugs, or from psychological causes such as dislike of sex or sexual partner, stress, anxiety, depression, or abuse. Impotence can occur at any age and has different manifestations.

Is there any treatment for premature ejaculation? Do exercises or medicines such as the many alternative medicines advertised everywhere help at all?

First of all, please consult a qualified doctor before you take any medicines. Premature Ejaculation is most often described as being an inability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. Premature ejaculation is subjective. Ejaculation time differs from person to person and also from time to time for the same person. Many men feel insecure about their sexual staying ability when they compare themselves to the fantasy standards of porn. The reasons for premature ejaculation can be many, ranging from over excitement, anxiety over sexual performance, stress, or relationship problems with partner. Here are a couple of things you can do to last longer. Masturbate to orgasm 1-2 hours before you have sex. Many men find that this helps them stay longer when they have sex with a partner. It helps to get to know your body and to teach yourself to last longer through masturbation. Most men report that there’s a point during arousal when they know they’re about to ejaculate. The idea is to stop or slow down for a few seconds before this point while masturbating. This technique is called the stop-start technique. You may find that you need to practice this for some time before you see results. Also, if you want to pleasure your partner for longer, you can also use other techniques like digital stimulation (using your fingers) or perform oral sex on her/him.

My breasts are small and sagging. How can I increase their size and improve their shape?

The size of a woman’s breasts has no bearing on her interest in sex or her ability to give or receive pleasure. So don’t fret! Exercise and massage do not increase the size of breasts; they strengthen and tone the muscles around the breasts. Perfectly hemispherical breasts can be created through surgery and other techniques only. Your sexuality is not confined to certain parts of your body. Your whole body, regardless of size, shape, colour and weight, is sexual. Enjoy it.

I used to get wet just at the thought of stimulation but now it’s difficult to get wet. What can I do?

Changes in sexual arousal and lubrication patterns may also be associated with other events in a woman’s life. Having a new sex partner, or being with the same partner for many years, may affect the patterns of all the stages of a woman’s sexual response cycle: desire, arousal, excitement, and orgasm. Various health conditions — including depression and diabetes, for example — may also affect her sex drive. Age itself also has an effect. In fact, during perimenopause and menopause, many, if not most, women experience vaginal dryness.

Women who would like increased lubrication should not be shy about using over-the-counter lubricants to enhance sexual pleasure. There are hundreds of products on the market to choose from. There are only two important cautions: Oil-based lubricants can damage latex condoms. Silicone-based lubricants can damage barrier contraceptives made of silicone, such as FemCap, and a wide variety of sex toys that are also made of silicone. So, if you use sex toys or latex condoms, you won’t go wrong if you purchase a water-based lubricant.

My vulva’s color is darker than my skin. Does this mean I have an infection?

Vulvas can change in color and sometimes become darker as we grow, particularly around the labias (also called lips). This is very normal for most people, and the change is often the result of changes in hormones, such as puberty, taking pills, pregnancy, and so on. Labias also get darker when aroused as a result of the blood rushing into the area. There’s no reason to worry when that happens, it’s very normal. Unless there’s bumps, scars, pimples, warts or rashes, it’s most likely to be just that.
Sometimes shaving darkens the area around the vulva as well and causes ingrown hairs. Moisturizing the area helps reduce the irritability and dryness caused by shaving.